Updated: Jul 20, 2020
What does freedom mean to you? Ok, so I have never worked on a plantation, had to nurse another women’s baby, been stripped and beaten, in public.
I have never had somebody compare my complexion to a brown paper bag or had another person slide a pencil through my hair to see if it would stay in or fall out..
I have experienced people telling me that I am really "well spoken", "articulate".
I have been asked, by people, in London, where I was born.
Yes, in a hospital.
What freedom means to me is being able to go any where, without stares, anywhere. Freedom means being able to work anywhere, without being told: “You look far too young to have so much work experience and so many degrees.” OR “When have you had time to write a book? Wow, you really are clever.” Freedom means being treated equally. Freedom means being given the same opportunities, exposure as my white counterparts. Freedom means being offered air-time, the same volume of interest, opportunities after potential investors have already seen my photograph. Freedom means seeing women that look and sound like me represented in equal numbers on every panel, not just one. What does FREEDOM mean to you? I love the colour of my skin and I am so proud to be a black mummy in Britain in 2020. I still believe that we have a very, very, very, very, very, very..... long way to go in terms of how black mothers are treated BUT there are things that I can do now, that I know my mum would not have been able to do, or my Grandmother. Racism still exists and I am using Freedom Friday to stamp it out by speaking to one mum at a time. If you are a black mummy or a mummy with with black heritage, or you have a black spouse, partner then we will have a LOT of shared experiences. If you not in any of the categories above, then there are many things you can do to support your black friends, colleagues and black mums within your communities. 1. Never tell them they have over reacted when they have experienced racism. 2. Do not defend or excuse systemic racism in schools, work places or public spaces. 3. Do not make comments like, “I can’t be racist, I’m friends with you.” 4. Do listen, do celebrate, do encourage. 5. If conversations about race are making you uncomfortable then assess how your perception of black people has impacted your treatment of us. Each Mum | Reach Mum | Teach Mum Love Lulu x