What is it about running a home that gets you up out of bed every day, iron every pair of underpants you can find, pair socks as you look for the missing remote control, cook whilst doing laundry, cutting up onions, catch up with a loved one over the phone... all at the same time?
Do you ever wonder, how will I get everything done today?
Will my child catch it?
How can I afford to give up work?
Can I start a degree now?
When will I ever be able to move home?
Will I be appreciated for the things I do around here?
These are all incredibly valid questions, feeling down or out of sorts is common amongst mums, that's an epidemic in itself.
When your body starts to grow a tiny person (s/he has a heart beat from 5.5 weeks- isn't that awesome?) * it is almost as if all of the worst fears you have ever had suddenly implode and you become more like a child again, feeling incapable of looking after another person.
Can I tell you something?
You are wrong.
Yes, darling, you are wrong.
No #mumlife is perfect.
But that just isn't what your baby needs, think of your tiny bump..
"Dear #Mum, I really need you to be perfect, with full make-up, a full-time job, lots of money and lots of followers...."
I think if your youngest child, unborn baby or eldest could write you a love letter it would be a little more like this:
" Mummy, is that you?
I love the sound of your voice
I love how soft your hands are
I think you smell like bubbles
I love your cuddles.
Will you be there?
I love the way your tears feel on my face sometimes, when you pretend not to cry.
I love seeing your mouth wide open when you yawn, you have lots of teeth, Mummy
Will you be there?
Can I call you on my first day of Uni and tell you that I want to change the world?
Can I call you and tell you that I am about to make you a mother-in-law.
Will you be there?
I do not care if your hair
Is perfectly laid
If you more or less than the average woman
I do not mind that you muddle up my name with my brothers and sister
ALL OF THE TIME.
Will you be there?"
Having children is life changing and I want o help you understand something today, you do not have to do this alone. Even if you are happily married, we still experience pangs and seasons of loneliness, don't feel guilty about that.
I have experienced unbearable loneliness for many years, I couldn't put my finger on it, I ws at every party, I have a huge family and I had a incredibly wide circle of people that I knew... But I still felt lonely and actually that loneliness pushed me to write poems, stories, knitwear and other beautiful things. But I had to address that feeling of loneliness.
My biggest fear, at that time was
WHAT IF I NEVER MAKE IT?
I started to doubt my abilities, my choices, I had people telling me that I would never make it, no matter what I did. I had such an ache...
What did I do?
I opened my arms wide and looked at the sky and shouted at the top of my voice
"God, if you are real, if this mess is true, then show me! I need to hear from you!"
I heard nothing.
But I felt something, it was as if I suddenly had blood running through my body, as if I suddenly had a heart beat. It very surreal. So each day I started talking out loud, God, if this is real can you help me with this? God is you are real, I need you here.
I never looked back.
There has not been a day in my adult life, that God has not shown up for me. Am I any more special to God than you? Of course not.
Do I still feel lonely? Occasionally, if I am moving into a new season of life or new phase of my family or business, friendships ending. But now I have changed the way I call on God, I'll show you:
"Father, I know you hear me when I pray, I know how much you love me because of what Jesus did. Would you strengthen me today as share with the world all that you have done for me?"
What is the difference? I have been in a relationship with God for 19 years, that is my entire adult life, I do not profess to know everything, that's impossible, I am not God. But what I do know is if you will give your life over to Christ today, you too, can experience that unending flow of love and joy that I feel everyday- Go ahead you can roll your eyes now.
Have you finished?
My point is, you may never understand my story, but you have a story of your own. My life has been far from a bed of roses, I lived in utter desolation and destruction trying to work out what career path to take, how to manage my time and money and home as young mum- this was after I committed to being a Christian. It has taken me a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong
time to rebuild my confidence, my home, my resolve and truly get to grips with what God wants for me and my home, but in all that time tripping up, falling down, looking approval God never changed how much He loved me.
#Christianity is the life of God (the Creator) in human beings (that's us). What this means, practically, is that each day, you take steps to get to know this God, through His Word, the Bible (https://classic.biblegateway.com) ,by building a relationship with Him, through faith in Jesus Christ. In the same way, as soon as your baby is born, in fact from the moment you "know" you spend time getting to know the baby, letting them know that each day YOU CHOOSE TO LOVE THEM
I ask you, then, would you like to be in a relationship with #God, the God of the Bible, the God that made this beautiful earth? The God that gave Jesus Christ to us:
This the WHAT
John 3:16-18 The Message (MSG)
“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him is acquitted; anyone who refuses to trust him has long since been under the death sentence without knowing it. And why? Because of that person’s failure to believe in the one-of-a-kind Son of God when introduced to him.** and we (using #faith, a bit like electricity, we know it's there because the lights come on) accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and get to know Him each day, as we would our own dear friends, loved ones, a spouse.
This is the WHY
"It’s crucial that we keep a firm grip on what we’ve heard so that we don’t drift off. If the old message delivered by the angels was valid and nobody got away with anything, do you think we can risk neglecting this latest message, this magnificent salvation? First of all, it was delivered in person by the Master, then accurately passed on to us by those who heard it from him. All the while God was validating it with gifts through the Holy Spirit, all sorts of signs and miracles, as he saw fit."**
In exchange for following Jesus you will receive peace, freedom, joy (that's laughter whilst your awake, peace whilst you sleep), it will be hard, your friends may disown you because you've become "one of us" but guess what even if you have a tough day, you will never be alone again. Read this prayer along with me: This is your YES "Lord Jesus, thank You for giving Your life for me and forgiving me of my sins so I can have a personal relationship with You. I am sincerely sorry for the mistakes I've made, and I know I need You to help me live right. Your Word says in Romans 10:9, "If you acknowledge and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord [recognizing His Power, authority, and majesty as God], and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." I believe You are the Son of God, and I confess You as my Saviour and Lord. Take me just as I am, and work in my heart, making me the person You want me to be. I want to live for You, Jesus, and I am so grateful to You for giving me a fresh start in my new life with You today. I love you, Jesus!"*** *Riggin, V. (2018) When Can You Hear The Baby's Heartbeat by Ultrasound and By Ear. Available at https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/when-can-you-hear-babys-heartbeat,
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